One year ago today…..
We woke up to a cool and rainy day. It was cool enough so that the snow level was about 5500 feet. The clouds would periodically lift enough to show the snow on mountain slopes. It was less than a week until archery season would open, and the cool weather put me in the elk hunting state of mind. I usually call my hunting buddies to tell them about the perfect conditions, especially when I know that they are not currently in “elk country”. So my first thought was to phone my brother-in-law, and good friend, Greg, who was flying a tanker, fighting fires on the California,
Nevada border. I knew he was in hot dry country and thought that the talk of cool Montana weather and elk hunting would be welcome. I also figured he would be busy flying and that I would not be able to get a hold of him until later that evening.
It was a busy day, I had to run some errands in town, and then meet with a new guide to show him some of hunting country.
It was a tough day to show someone the area because of the new snow and heavy cloud cover. There was a good 8” of fresh snow on the meadows at 7000 feet, and visibility was very limited by the clouds and silent falling snow. But the new guide was no stranger to the woods, and with the help of a topo map he caught on very quickly.
It was early evening when I returned home.
I was in the office when the phone rang. Deb came into the office obviously shaken, and told me that Greg’s plane had crashed and there was no word about whether there were survivors. She then left the house to go over to the lodge to tell Ben and LeAnn. We all feared the worst, and prayed for the best, that the crew was hospitalized, and that there was hope for recovery, we knew the odds were slim. Moments later the phone rang again, it was Charlie. Between my interruptions he was able to say that the plane had crashed shortly after takeoff, and that there were no survivors.
Deb was still out of the house. I was numb. I went to the living room, gathered the kids around. Deb walked in to find the kids gathered on the sofa, with me on my knees in front of them trying to find a way to tell them the awful news. She joined us and I shared the news that there were no survivors.
Then, through tears and sobs, we prayed, we held on to one another, all of us in shock. Prayed for Kim and the kids, Jean and Jerry, whose pain must be so much more acute than ours, and that in itself is hard to imagine.
It has been a year now and there is still pain in the space left in our lives. We continue to grieve.
Today I hear the news of the fires in
California, and I think about Greg. I head into the woods to go scouting or hunting and I remember Greg. I work on making my cow call better and I think about Greg. I take my family camping and I think about Greg. I see something special in the outdoors, and wish I could call Greg to share it. As we go on with our lives, there are so many instances that he comes to mind.
He is missed in so many ways by so many people too numerous to list.
I find a lot more meaning and hope in looking at how Greg lived his life than looking at how he died. He is greatly missed because of the way he lived his life.
I think about the fruits of the Holy Spirit as described in Galatians 5:22-26
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.
Greg did a very good job of living out or bearing these fruits.
Was he loving?……yep
Was he Joyful?……no doubt
Was he peaceful?…. certainly
Was he longsuffering?…. he was no quitter
Was he kind?……very
Was he good?…..yep
Was he Faithful?…..you bet
Was he gentle?…….he was, and this was only made more dramatic when you consider his size and physical strength.
Was he self controlled?…..I never saw him lose his temper, drink too much, eat too much, etc…. OK, OK I know he took a deer or antelope out of season, but that was probably my influence. (Long, long time ago, we were young and used all of the meat)
If you knew him, you know that what I am saying is the truth. This is not me blowing smoke up your coveralls. He didn’t seem to make a great effort or struggle to bear these fruits. It just seemed to be a part of him. I think Greg would point out that it wasn’t him, it was Christ in him.
I am challenged today to work harder to bear the same fruits, to be a faithful follower of Christ. Not just to talk about it, but to live it. I am inspired by the courage that Kim has shown this year, the unbelievable God given strength that she has, and the tremendous ways that she and the kids continue to bear these fruits as they struggle forward.
I probably think about Greg most when I am with his lovely widowed wife Kim, and his children. I fight the tears and a lump in my throat when I build a bow with his boys, or play catch, go fishing or hunting. I am blown away by the light in a boy’s eyes and the puff in his chest when I tell him, “Good job, your Dad would be so proud of you.” I keep thinking he should be here, and would be in a great way if he was able. I am heartbroken that he cannot be here for the kids, and honored that Kim is allowing me to be a part of showing them the great outdoors, and instilling in them the values that their father held dear.
We continue to lift Kim, Gabriel, Grady, and Grace (the Doodlebug) in prayer. My prayer for them is that they live a life full and rich in the fruits of the
Spirit, full of adventure as they pursue their God-given passions.
May God Bless and Keep you.
Darren Dunham
Please share your memories of Greg here, hunting or otherwise. I will compile them with photos in a book form at some point in the future for his family. Thanks DD